It’s common knowledge that divorce filings increase after the holiday period from November through New Year’s. We are not alone. In Israel, the rate of people filing for divorce before Passover is three times as high as during the rest of the year.
The Bitter Herbs of Passover Divorces
According to the Jerusalem Post, the reason for this increase in Passover divorces is the number of stresses that surface around the holidays. For example, there could be a question of where a family will hold its Seder.
The stress of the Passover season will sound familiar to anyone who deals with the stress during the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays.
There is a lot of sensitivity around relationships with extended family. Additionally, there is too much to do and greater financial demands during the holidays.
To help alleviate these stressors, it is important to plan in advance.
Having a Sweet Florida Divorce
I’ve written about divorces and their causes before. Passover divorces are similar to any other religious holiday in which you are cooped up in a house with your in-laws during the holidays, when your marriage is having problems. The holidays can take a toll on the best couples.
During the holidays, people try to put on a happy face for the kids and visiting relatives. And after seeing other families on Facebook and Instagram – the idea of perfect looking families haunts many couples who wonder why their lives don’t look as happy.
“Beware that the holiday period invites many hours that couples are together, which can lead to conflicts arising. Don’t make impulsive decisions on ending a connection during the holidays. Persevere until afterwards and then look at the situation with a new perspective.
Is there a way to make Passover divorces sweet like charoset? Whatever the reason for your problems, there are a few things that anyone looking into divorce for the first time needs to know to help them through the process.
Line up your priorities for life after the divorce. Is it finding a home? Is it retiring? Getting a job? Managing your special-needs child? Consider writing down your most important goals.
Even if you aren’t certain you need to hire an attorney, or filing for divorce at all, it is a good idea to meet with an expert in Florida’s divorce and family laws. Who better than someone certified by Florida as an expert in marital and family law?
Litigation is something to avoid. It’s time-consuming, contentious and expensive. The majority of divorces end up settling.
There are many forms of alternative dispute resolution out there, including collaborative divorce, mediation, and informal settlement conferences.
Is there a shank bone in a Vegan Passover?
Back in Israel, in addition to the increase in new applications for Passover divorces, there is often an increase in the number of religious Jewish divorces – called “Gets” – that are finalized.
This is because of “the feeling that the holiday time’s a time to finish things and start fresh. It affects the state of mind.
A wife and a husband hold different religious standards and deciding where the kids should be can push them over the edge. The Jerusalem Post reported how last year a woman insisted on having a vegan Seder and her husband would not agree. This led to divorce.
The Jerusalem Post article is here.