A Few Good Divorce Tips

On behalf of Ronald H. Kauffman, P.A. posted in Divorce on Wednesday, September 4, 2013.

You can get divorce advice all over the place. What you may not know is that no two divorces are the same. What happened to your friend, co-worker or manicurist in their divorce is completely different from what you’re going through.

You can also find advice about divorce all over the internet. Some is good, but most of it is bad. When you are in the business of divorce though, you see the same lessons being learned over and over. And, when I see other professionals offering advice that I think is good, I like to give them the credit they deserve.

Nicole Noonan, executive director of divorce finance company BBL Churchill Group, recently appeared on TV, and had some good advice for anyone suffering through a divorce.

Surprisingly, her first tip is to make sure you hire an attorney who is not too aggressive. This is surprising advice because most people think you will be better served by an over-aggressive lawyer. People learn the hard way that’s not true.

“Your attorney not only represents your interests, they also represent your style, she said on “The Couch” Thursday.” So if you hire a pit-bull attorney, it doesn’t mean you get a better settlement necessarily. You can have a long drawn-out legal battle…and it’s not always the right choice.”

She also advised against a take-it-all mentality in court.

“Pick your battles. Just because you’ve been wronged in the marriage doesn’t mean the court is going to look at that,” she said.

Divorce involves big decisions. You are always better served by identifying ahead of time what is most important to you and your children.

That decision involves knowing you and your spouse’s finances, identifying what you and your children’s needs are, and hiring an attorney who will help you identify and meet your needs.

You can watch the video here.