Divorce Rates are Way Up?

On behalf of Ronald H. Kauffman, P.A. posted in Divorce on Sunday, March 30, 2014.

The accepted wisdom is that divorce rates have dropped since the 1980s, and have been declining since. I recently blogged about how more people are divorcing. Now there is a new report confirming that divorce rates have actually risen by a whopping 40%!

Part of the problem with counting divorces is that collecting divorce statistics in the United States is not consistent. Some counties keep good track of finalized divorce cases, others don’t. Also, different states and the federal Census Bureau have had a rocky history of collecting the data from across the country.

In fact, the federal government has stopped providing financial support for detailed state collection, and some states, especially California, have stopped reporting divorce rates entirely.

A new paper has looked to a different source of information: the American Community Survey, which is an ongoing sampling of population in every state. Here are some of their findings:

– Since 1980 the overall divorce rate has declined only 2.2%.

– Controlling for the change in the age of the population the divorce rate has actually risen 40%.

– The divorce rate peaked in 2011.

By the year 2010, the report notes, “almost half of ever married Americans had divorced or separated by the time they reached their late 50’s.”

The increase in the divorce rate is being blamed on the Baby Boomers, those born between 1945 and 1954. In the 1970s, Baby Boomers, who were then in their twenties, were equally likely to divorce.

But by 1990, couples in their twenties were more stable, but the Baby Boomers, who were entering their forties, continued to divorce “at unprecedented rates.” Since then, the biggest rise in divorce has the “massive increase” in divorce among women in their fifties.

The report also finds that younger married couples are actually enjoying more stable marriages than Baby Boomers did at their age. However, the reason divorce is lower for younger married couples today is that most younger couples are not getting married; instead they’re cohabitating.

Cohabitation has always been far less stable than marriages.

Our results document striking growth in…turbulence since the 1980s. Divorce at age 40 or higher is much more common than it was and because cohabitation makes up a rapidly growing percentage of all unions they have an increasing impact on overall union instability.

One point to keep in mind is the source of their data. Remember, Kennedy and Ruggles, relied on the American Community Survey for their data. the American Community Survey is just a household survey filled out by a single individual, and may not be the most reliable source of divorce reports.

An abstract of the Report can be found here.

Tips to Dividing Your Property

On behalf of Ronald H. Kauffman, P.A. posted in Equitable Distribution on Saturday, March 15, 2014.

In a Florida divorce we divide only the marital assets and debts. The process of dividing marital property starts with inventorying everything you acquired. Anything you brought into the marriage, anything inherited, and anything excluded by a prenuptial agreement, is generally not marital.

Hiding Assets

One of the worst thing you can do is hide assets. You may think you can get away with hiding assets, but keep in mind that we divorce attorneys are suspicious, and start with the assumption that assets are being hidden.

From the time you marry until the day your divorce is final you owe a “fiduciary duty.” If you violate this duty there can be legal consequences: a judge can order you to pay your spouse’s legal expenses, you could face an unequal distribution, and you will lose credibility with the judge.

Mediating

The best thing you can do for yourself is to try to settle your property division between the two of you, without mediators and out of court. But what if you can’t come to an agreement?

Hire a mediator to help resolve the tough issues that have kept you from agreeing with your spouse. Your attorney mediates cases very often, and he or she will try to select a mediator that they think can best help you settle your case. Since Florida requires mediation as part of the divorce process anyway, I frequently advise an early mediation – even before you file.

Don’t fight over ‘pots and pans’. No one wins if you end up in court arguing about who gets the Tupperware. Some things have emotional attachments, and try to decide before hand with your attorney what things are most important to you.

Going to Court

Martial property is divided according to Florida’s equitable distribution laws. Unlike courts in California and western states for instance, which are community property states, Florida is an equitable distribution state. In Florida, we start with the principle that marital property is divided equitably, not necessarily equally.

In Florida, a spouse’s financial contribution to the asset, or a spouse’s ability to support themselves post-divorce, or even infidelity can be taken into consideration when dividing property.

You should familiarize yourself with how Florida courts divide property. It will go a long way in helping you when trying to negotiate with your spouse. In fact, you should even consider reading up on Florida’s Chapter 61, the divorce statutes.

To summarize, try to work with your spouse, don’t squabble over the small stuff, don’t hide assets, and learn how Florida laws impact a judge’s decision if they have to make the call over how to divide your life.

Understanding Your Settlement Agreement

On behalf of Ronald H. Kauffman, P.A. posted in Agreements on Wednesday, March 5, 2014.

You want to understand your property division, but it sounds like Shakespeare wrote it: “Witnesseth that whereas the aforementioned, hereinafter referred to as party of the second part, hereby stipulates betwixt . . .” How do you make sense of that?

You could ask your lawyer to explain what this legal mumbo jumbo means again, but you probably don’t want to add to your attorneys’ bill. On the other hand, you also don’t want to violate the agreement, and most importantly, you want this thing to work. What to do.

Below are a few tips to help you to understand your new marital settlement agreement:

– Calendar the exchange days and times into your iPhone as far out as possible.

– Calendar any “notify by” dates for vacations and special events.

– For the kids, draw a color-coded calendar of timesharing exchanges so they will know where they’ll be. It helps instill confidence.

– List on a piece of paper what needs to be divided and when.

– Notify your H.R. department about your divorce.

– Notify cable T.V., cellular telephone and other accounts managers to change accounts.

– Calendar when support payments are due.

– List the amount of child support and alimony to be paid.

– List your children’s extra-curricular expenses and uncovered expenses and remember what percentage each parent is responsible for.

Marital settlement agreements, even when written clearly, are legal contracts. They can be long and complex. Even lawyers have to continually educate themselves to stay on top of this ever changing area of law.

Once the agreement is signed, you should be finished, but not always. These tips should help, but if you find yourself back in court, you will at least have a handle on the agreement.

It is not uncommon for me to be brought into a case to review someone’s proposed marital settlement agreement before they sign it. So, if all else fails, call a lawyer for help.

Divorce Rate Increases

On behalf of Ronald H. Kauffman, P.A. posted in Divorce on Sunday, March 2, 2014.

The number of people divorce rose again for the 3rd year in a row. The broader economic effects of the increase are clear: It is contributing to the formation of new households, boosting demand for housing, appliances and furnishings and spurring the economy. Why are more people divorcing now?

Since Florida’s economy and housing market are recovering, more and more couples are moving forward with their divorces after years of showing up to work as if nothing were wrong in their personal lives.

Hard economic times kept many couples locked in unhappy marriages. Often people stay together for financial reasons. As Bloomberg reports, Amy Derose and her husband Lawrence stayed together for the sake of their engineering firm in Pompano Beach:

“The business was hanging on by a thread and we had to hang on,” said Derose, 53, who had been married 35 years and worked as the business manager. “We couldn’t afford to split. He needed me in the business and I needed him.”

However, there are economic effects from the increase in divorce filings: they are creating new households, boosting demand for housing, appliances and furnishings and may spur the economy.

More than 5 million new households were established in the past 4 years, and that helps to create housing demands by creating two households when before there was only one.

Newly single men are renting apartments to stay close to their children and attend school events. Newly single women are entering the work force:

“In unhappy marriages, they have started having the macroeconomic ability to unwind,” he said. That is creating “a little bit of a tailwind” for apartments.

Also helping to motivate people to get out of unhappy marriages are the rising stock and home values. The increase in home equity and investments has given people a sense of greater financial security.

In Florida, which saw home-price gains after huge drops, we are experiencing an increase in divorce rates to above 2008 levels:

“In many cases after divorce, people sell their homes and divide up the proceeds,” he said, which provides “each of them with a nest egg to begin their separate lives.”

Although a bigger stock account and home equity to divide may motivate a divorce, splitting into two homes takes a financial toll on a couple. However, many couples report that ending an unhappy marriage was:

worth every moment of hardship. I had to take full ownership of my life, my choices, my future, and my happiness.

You can read the Bloomberg report here.

Recognizing Legal Same Sex Marriages in Florida

On behalf of Ronald H. Kauffman, P.A. posted in Same sex/GLBTA on Wednesday, February 26, 2014.

I blogged earlier about same sex couples who legally marry outside Florida, but can’t divorce because same sex marriages aren’t recognized. A federal judge recently ruled that Kentucky must recognize out-of-state same-sex marriages. Is this a prelude to striking Florida’s same-sex marriage ban?

A federal judge in the Western District of Kentucky has struck down Kentucky’s ban on recognizing same-sex marriages performed in states where it is legal.

U.S. District Judge John G. Heyburn II ruled that Kentucky’s prohibition violates the U.S. Constitution’s guarantee of equal protection under the law by treating gays and lesbians differently in a way that demeans them.

The Judge ruled:

While religious beliefs are vital to the fabric of society, assigning a religious or traditional rationale for a law does not make it constitutional when that law discriminates against a class of people without other reasons.

The judge then struck down part of Kentucky’s marriage statute which says only a marriage between one man and one woman shall be valid or recognized as a marriage in Kentucky.

Florida’s is similar, and generally provides:

Marriages between persons of the same sex entered into in any jurisdiction which are treated as marriages are not recognized for any purpose in this state.

Not everyone in Kentucky is happy. State Representative Stan Lee, who championed Kentucky’s marriage law said:

“My heart breaks for my country – a country that I believe the founding fathers established as a country under God. A ruling like this, diametrically opposed to God’s law, breaks my heart.”

Interestingly, Judge Heyburn is a Republican, and was nominated for the federal bench by President George H.W. Bush in 1992. One of the more interesting comments in the decision:

“The exclusion of same-sex couples on procreation grounds makes just as little sense as excluding post-menopausal couples or infertile couples on procreation grounds.”

You can read more about the case in the Courier-Journal.

Relocations with Children: Panel Discussion

On behalf of Ronald H. Kauffman, P.A. posted in Relocation on Wednesday, February 19, 2014.

I recently was asked to speak on a panel at the Family Court Services, Lunch and Learn lecture series on the topic of divorce: Tough Choices. Can Children Win? If you were one of the 90 or so registered attendees, you had an opportunity to hear from a panel of experts in the legal, judicial and psychological fields on cutting edge issues in relocations. If you didn’t, here are some of the take away points:

Florida’s Relocation Statute is Highly Technical

Relocations, unlike much of family law, are highly technical. They involve fast deadlines, mandatory language, detailed service of pleading rules, font size requirements, detailed pleadings, and the list goes on.

Judges and lawyers report that lawyers are frequently overlooking key provisions of the statute, and children are losing in relocation cases because these strict pleading requirements and deadlines are not being met.

Florida’s Relocation Statute has an Intricate 11 Factor Analysis

There is no presumption in Florida anymore on whether you can move away with your child more than 50 miles from your principal residence for more than 60 days. That was the old rule.

Instead, courts must evaluate a relocation request based on 10 detailed and objective factors, and one catch-all factor. These factors cross over between legal standards developed over many decades litigation, and many psychological factors. The test begs the question of what kind of team do you need to assemble on your side to successfully relocate with your child in Florida.

Relocations with Children Involves Risk

There is always a probability of harm associated with relocations. Your child could face difficulties in adjusting to a new environment, or have developmental needs which are impacted. Or, they simply are baseball fanatics and a move to a country without a baseball league could be devastating.

Factors such as the age of the child, the distance of the relocation from the non-relocating parent, the stability of the parents, the level of involvement of both parents in the child’s upbringing, substance abuse, parental alienation syndrome, and other conflicts all are factored into a decision to relocate.

The clear take-away from the presentation was that relocations involve difficult decisions, courts are required to balance several psychological and legal factors, and the statute governing relocations in Florida must be strictly followed.

The event was hosted at the Family Law Courthouse, and was sponsored by Family Court Services. Kidside is a not for profit organization devoted to supporting Family Court Services. Kidside’s website is here if you are looking to support this great organization.

Speaking on Panel about Relocation Next Week

On behalf of Ronald H. Kauffman, P.A. posted in Relocation on Friday, February 14, 2014.

I will be speaking on a panel hosted by Family Court Services on Wednesday February 19th from Noon to 2:00PM at the Lawson E. Thomas Family Courthouse. Anyone who practices in this area or is interested should attend.When one parent moves away with the children from another parent more than 50 miles for more than 60 days it is called a relocation in Florida.

One of the most difficult situations facing parents and children is when a parent wants to relocate to another city. These are called relocation cases. Florida is in the Sun Belt, and is naturally a very mobile society.

Residential moves are very common among parents after divorce. Parents want to pursue new job opportunities, earn a degree, and return to their home community where parents and extended family live, or remarry.

The non-relocating parent usually opposes the child moving because it makes it very difficult to stay meaningfully involved with the child, or sustain a quality parent-child relationship. This is especially true when the moving parent wants to relocate with a very young child.

Relocation cases are very fact-driven, and call for a thorough investigation of the family’s context and circumstances. It is common to request guardians, psychological experts, social investigations, and parental responsibility evaluations in relocation cases.

Very often relocation cases raise issues of parental involvement with the child. Allegations are frequently made that one parent is trying to alienate the child from the other parent, and the parent who is feeling shut-out is alleging that the other parent is engaging in gate-closing behaviors to hinder involvement with the child.

Relocation cases are governed by §61.13001 of the Florida Statutes. It is a technical statute, with deadlines and requirements that are specifically stated and enforced. Both parents are charged with understanding its details, and are well served by a lot of preparation and sound legal advice.

For more information on the Family Court Services Unit of the 11th Judicial Circuit click here.

Read Every Post on your Ex’s Facebook Account!

On behalf of Ronald H. Kauffman, P.A. posted in Divorce on Monday, February 10, 2014.

Filing for divorce can mean a lot of your personal information becomes relevant at trial. That includes your Facebook posts. Florida courts will often let your Ex, or soon-to-be Ex, discover things from your accounts. What are the limits? Last week the Second District Court of Appeals tried to answer that question.

In a personal injury action, parents of a 3-year old sued the City of Cape Coral for damages after their son was hit by a truck in front of a construction site.

The defendants asked the mother to produce copies of postings her Facebook account, and the mother didn’t want to comply because the request information was very personal and not relevant to the lawsuit.

The defendant wanted copies of postings on her Facebook account which include the following:

– Psychological care obtained by the mom;

– All postings, statuses, photos, “likes” or videos related to the mom’s relationships with her children before and after the accident;

– Her relationships with other family members, boyfriends, husbands, and/or significant others;

– Her mental health, stress complaints, alcohol use or other substance use;

– Postings about any lawsuit filed after the accident.

The court noted that none of the requests pertained to the accident itself. Instead, the discovery relates to her past and present personal relationships mental health, use of alcohol and lawsuits.

Also, the court saw it as a fishing expedition, even the defendant’s attorney admitted as much:

“These are all things that we would like to look under the hood, so to speak, and figure out whether that’s even a theory worth exploring.”

Based on the then current posture of the case, the court concluded that the Facebook discovery requests had to be quashed. However, should the status of the case change, the requested information may be discoverable.

The lesson for lawyers is to tailor Facebook requests to require production of materials related as closely as can be to the claims and defenses in the case. For litigants, watch what you post on social media sites, they may be discoverable.

The Second District Court of Appeals opinion can be read here.

Equal Timesharing Presumed in Florida

On behalf of Ronald H. Kauffman, P.A. posted in Timesharing/Visitation on Friday, February 7, 2014.

Child custody is on everyone’s mind again as the Florida Legislature prepares for its March 2014 session. Last year, Governor Scott vetoed a bill with a presumption that parents always have equal timesharing with their children. This week I spoke at the FLAFCC regional workshop discussing the pros and cons of that presumption.

Fifty-fifty timesharing between parents may sound like a great idea, and there are strong arguments for and against a presumption of equal timesharing. Here are some of the arguments for and against a presumption in favor of equal timesharing raised at the workshop:

Pro

  • Each year, cases are tied up in court to establish a right to see children that parents would automatically have if they were married.
  • An equal time presumption promotes Florida’s existing policy of frequent contact after divorce.
  • Equal timesharing puts the burden on the parent opposing equal timesharing, changing the dynamics of custody litigation.
  • Equal timesharing is consistent with Florida’s existing no-fault concept.

Con

  • Requiring every family to have equal timesharing is like requiring every family to wear a size 4 shoe. Not every family fits.
  • The presumption creates a uniform rule where the flexibility of ‘the best interest of the child’ is needed.
  • Requires courts to focus on QUANTITY of time instead of QUALITY of time.
  • Requires courts to focus on what’s best for the parents instead of what’s in the child’s best interest.

The FLAFCC workshop was well attended. Family lawyers, family division judges, expert psychologists and interested people were able to break out into teams, listen to lectures and watch movies on the issue.

With the 2014 Legislative session starting next month, and bills already in committee, this is an interesting time to keep your eye on this issue.

Speaking about Equal Timesharing Presumptions this Friday

On behalf of Ronald H. Kauffman, P.A. posted in Timesharing/Visitation on Monday, February 3, 2014.

I will be speaking Friday, February 7, 2014, at the Florida Chapter of the AFCC Miami Regional Training held at the Lawson E. Thomas Family Courthouse. The subject is: “Equal Time-sharing: Is It Presumptively Best?” The AFCC is an organization of judges, lawyers, mental health professionals, and other experts who are improving the lives of children and families. The training is open to anyone interested in this important, interesting and timely topic.

Child custody, now known in Florida as time-sharing, can be an extremely painful part of any divorce or separation. Fathers think courts always side with Mothers. Conversely, Mothers worry Fathers only want to increase timesharing to lower their child support obligations. When parents can’t agree, the court has to decide.

What are the presumptions judges must rely on in creating a parenting plan and time-sharing schedule? Have you ever wondered what judges, lawyers, parenting plan evaluators, guardians ad litem and other related professionals thought of equal timesharing? If so, then this is an event for you.

Florida used to have a judicially created presumption against rotating custody. Then last year, legislators working on the alimony bill added a last-minute provision requiring courts to order equal timesharing. The alimony bill was ultimately vetoed by Governor Scott at the last minute. However, there are rumors that it may surface during this upcoming legislative session.

I hope to see lawyers, judges, clients, anyone interested in this topic, and readers of this blog there.