This is Your MenoDivorce

Do you really want a divorce, or do you have a case of MenoDivorce? These are questions many women reaching their midlife are asking. Hormones are changing, they are becoming empty nesters, and careers are often at their peak. The hot new term in family law has become: the Meno-Divorce.

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No tears and no hearts breakin’ . . .

As of last year, marriage rates were up and divorce numbers were down. But, there’s a specific type of divorce that’s now seems to be on the rise. This is something known as “menodivorce” and, it’s linked to women, in particular, being perimenopausal or going through menopause.

The divorce rate for middle aged and older men has been increasing significantly too. For men, the second half of life is a big change in terms of  your physical shape, changing work roles, and different sexual appetites and abilities. Then there’s the fact children are grown, there’s more free time, and more disposable income.

It is no different for women. According to the Mayo Clinic, perimenopause is the time before menopause when your body is getting ready to stop having periods. And, more women approaching menopause are leaving their husbands. Some women view leaving their spouses as an awakening instead of a midlife crisis.

According to a UK-based survey conducted by the Family Law Menopause Project and Newsom Health Research and Education, seven in 10 women blamed perimenopause or menopause for the breakdown of their marriage.

Another study by Bowling Green State University’s National Center for Family and Marriage Research found that, as of 2019, divorce rates in adults 50 and older accounted for one in four divorces, up from this age bracket making up one in ten divorces in the US in 1990.

Florida MenoDivorce

I’ve written about midlife divorces and gray divorces before. The legal nuances of gray divorce can be different than what other couples might encounter. In a gray divorce, the financial considerations take on more importance than the children’s issues – because the children are emancipated or nearly so.

When couples choose to divorce in their 30s or 40s, they still have time to recover financially, because adults at that age have several years, if not decades, left in their careers.

But when divorce occurs when a couple is in their 50s or later, the so-called “MenoDivorce” years, careers may either be coming to a close or are completed, and spouses are often living on fixed incomes provided through Social Security or retirement benefits.

Here are some things to consider:

  • By the time a couple enters the golden years, there may be gold to divide, including businesses, retirement funds, and vacation homes. Valuing these assets can be difficult. A financial advisor may be an important component in the divorce.
  • Health insurance is often tied to the employment of a spouse. Courts may need to intervene if one party has dwindling capacity to handle their own affairs.
  • Wills and trusts need to be reviewed to make sure they reflect post-divorce wishes. The same is true for long-term care, such as medical directives, living wills and trusts.
  • Retirement plans can be substantial and complex. Retirement plans vary, and they all have different restrictions, tax consequences, distribution and vesting rules.
  • There are special concerns involved in a gray divorce. As always, information is power, so make a point to seek out experts for guidance.

Many MenoDivorces involve marriages that have lasted for several decades, which makes it difficult to disentangle the spouses from each other. However, couples who divorce after many years together should receive a close-to-even split of assets, legally putting each spouse on an equal playing field for the future.

No Remorse

The average age a woman reaches menopause in America is 51, according to the Mayo Clinic. One OB-GYN and menopause specialist broke down why women are divorcing their husbands when they hit this stage of their lives.

Perimenopausal and menopausal women experience a whole range of symptoms, like a loss of libido, at the same time, life begins to get more stressful, which eventually takes its toll on them. Experts advise couples to seek additional help, like therapy, to improve communication and support, as well as treatment to help with menopausal symptoms.

The USA Today article is here.

Excessive Snoring Grounds for Divorce

Could excessive snoring be grounds for a divorce? Recent news out of Israel has many people dreaming about a peaceful night’s sleep after a court ruled on whether, if left untreated, snoring could lead to financial liability and a divorce.

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Sleep Divorce

A study conducted amongst 2,000 married couples in the United Kingdom found that approximately 12% of the couples cited that snoring was one of the problems that contributed to the downfall of their relationship. About 18% revealed that they regularly argued about snoring, while 30% admitted that they had to resort to sleeping in separate rooms.

Obstructive Sleep Apnea is a pervasive sleep disorder that affects a significant portion of the population, with approximately 11% of women and 26% of men in America suffering from it..

A couple in Israel saw that their marriage deteriorated amid mutual accusations, leading to divorce with an agreement to settle the other issue later. During the divorce trial, the wife accused the husband of “excessive snoring.”

While the husband admitted the issue, he countered, “When I snored, she’d scream, get angry, hit the wall, curse and order me to go to the child’s room, even withholding intimacy.”

The wife sought full financial payment plus additional compensation, while the husband argued her demands caused the split.

Florida No Fault Divorce

The official term for divorce in Florida is “dissolution of marriage”, and you don’t need fault as a ground for divorce. Florida abolished fault as a ground for divorce. Interestingly, given the recent attack on no-fault divorce, it was former Governor Ronald Reagan of California who signed the nation’s first no-fault divorce bill.

The no fault divorce law eliminated the need for couples to fabricate spousal wrongdoing in pursuit of a divorce; indeed, one likely reason for Reagan’s decision to sign the bill was that his first wife, Jane Wyman, had unfairly accused him of “mental cruelty” to obtain a divorce in 1948.

I’ve written about no-fault divorce issues before. The no-fault concept in Florida means you no longer have to prove a reason for the divorce, like your husband’s snoring and untreated sleep apnea. Instead, you just need to state under oath that your marriage is “irretrievably broken.”

Before the no-fault divorce era, people who wanted to get divorce either had to reach agreement in advance with the other spouse that the marriage was over or throw mud at each other and prove wrongdoing like adultery or abuse.

No-fault laws were the result of trying to change the way divorces played out in court. No fault laws have reduced the number of feuding couples who felt the need to resort to distorted facts, lies, and the need to focus the trial on who did what to whom.

A Snoozer of a Decision

Back in the Holy Land, a court deliberated extensively on whether a husband’s snoring justifies divorce and alimony payments. After a lengthy review, a three-judge panel ruled that the husband could have addressed his snoring but failed to do so.

The court ordered him to pay 130,000 shekels (about $35,000) as compensation as demanded by his wife. After consulting historical rulings and modern medical insights, the judges wrote:

“We face a unique case where both husband and wife agree he snores during sleep, driving her to frustration and anger. His snoring led her to leave the bedroom, halt intimacy and fuel mutual resentment, insults and curses.”

They noted that snoring is treatable through medical consultation, devices, therapies or diet adjustments. Since the husband recognized his snoring deeply irritated his wife, he should have sought treatment for an admitted issue.

“Per the Jewish sages, if a person can change and doesn’t, he is deemed to have willfully driven his wife away, obligating him to pay. His snoring was solvable and his failure to act makes him liable for the full ketubah and supplement.”

The three judges diverged on the compensation amount. One judge advocated for the full 260,000 shekels ($70,000), while the two other judges argued the wife’s behavior also contributed to the rift, proposing 130,000 shekels. The majority upheld the lower sum in the final ruling.

The article is here.

International Custody, Hague Convention, and the Settled Defense

In a recent international custody case for return under the Hague Convention, a mother asserts a defense her son is settled in the U.S. and shouldn’t be returned. But his grades are bad, he misses school, and his connections to his stepfather’s family come at the expense of his longer relationship with family in Brazil. After the trial court orders him returned to Brazil, will the appellate court reverse?

Hague Now Settled

Boa Sorte

Both parents, and the child A.R., are all citizens and natives of Brazil. The parents were married in 2011, and lived in Belo Horizonte, Brazil (meaning “beautiful horizon” and pictured above). In 2016 they separated, and finally divorced in 2021. The parents shared custody of A.R., but A.R. lived with the mother. The mother then began a relationship with a man who immigrated to the United States.

The father signed a passport application that included a travel authorization permitting A.R. to travel outside of Brazil. The mother and A.R. then flew to Mexico, where they crossed the Mexico-United States border in 2022. She then applied for asylum.

Upon discovering the abduction, the father filed a petition to return A.R. to Brazil. The trial court in the U.S. found the father had met his prima facie burden to show A.R. was wrongfully removed from Brazil. Then, it rejected all the affirmative defenses the mother raised about consent, the now settled defense and the grave risk of harm. The Mother appealed.

Florida and the Hague Convention

I have spoken and written about the Hague Abduction Convention and international child custody issues before. The Hague Abduction Convention establishes legal rights and procedures for the prompt return of children who have been wrongfully removed or retained.

The International Child Abduction Remedies Act is the statute in the United States that implements the Hague Abduction Convention. Under the Act, a person may petition a court authorized to exercise jurisdiction in the country where a child is located for the return of the child to his or her habitual residence in another signatory country, so the underlying child custody dispute can be determined in the proper jurisdiction.

The Hague Convention applies only in jurisdictions that have signed the convention, and its reach is limited to children under 16 years of age. Essentially, The Hague Convention helps families more quickly revert back to the “status quo” child custody arrangement before the wrongful child abduction. The Hague Convention exists to protect children from international abductions by requiring the prompt return to their habitual residence.

But there are defenses too. If return proceedings have been commenced after the expiration of a period of one year, courts can order the return of a child to their habitual residence, unless it is demonstrated that the child is now settled in its new environment.

Não Me Deixe Só

In rejecting the settled defense at the trial level, and ordering the child returned to Brazil, the district court analyzed several factors: age, stability and duration of the residence; whether the child consistently attended school; friends and relatives; involvement in the community and in extracurricular activities; employment and financial stability; and immigration status.

But on appeal, the circuit court found A.R. had lived in the same community for nearly three years, a significant amount of time for a school-age child. Also, his mother has steady employment and income. Those facts, standing alone, weigh heavily in favor of finding A.R. to be “now settled.”

A.R., it was also found, benefitted from a supportive extended family. He had a step-aunt and step-uncle who lived nearby and saw him twice a month. Despite A.R.’s poor grades and disruptive behavior, he arrived from Brazil unable to read or write in Portuguese, let alone in English, and was “meeting expectations of the classroom.”

The circuit court also found that A.R. attended church twice a month, participated in a youth group, had several friends of Brazilian descent, and importantly, played on a Massachusetts soccer team twice a week.

The circuit court remanded for the district court to decide whether, in the exercise of equitable discretion, returning A.R. to Brazil is warranted despite the appellate court finding that his status was “now settled.”

The case is here.

Speaking at the Trial Advocacy Workshop

I am honored and looking forward to speaking on the topic of opening statements at the Florida Bar Family Law Section’s biennial, 2025 Trial Advocacy Workshop. The 2025 Trial Advocacy Workshop will be presented this year at the JW Marriott Marquis in Miami from July 23, 2025 to July 27, 2025.

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The program allows practicing attorneys a rare opportunity to improve their trial skills with complex financial and parenting issues in family law. Attendees work with sitting family law judges, fellow attorneys, and practicing forensic accountants and mental health professionals who serve as expert witnesses. Attendees prepare and present a family law case over the course of the five day workshop. The Trial Advocacy Workshop always sells out and this year is no exception. The Trial Advocacy Workshop is presented by the Florida Bar Family Law Section.

More information is available here.

Divorce, Infidelity, and Coldplay

Divorce, infidelity and the music group Coldplay coalesced this past week in and online ‘kiss cam’ that went viral. No one wants to be the “star of the internet” for a day the way Andy Byron became last week. But, the kiss cam seen around the world, and the legal aspects of infidelity and divorce, made big news in spectacular fashion.

Coldplay Infidelity

Trouble

Andy Byron is now the former chief executive of a New York-based tech company called Astronomer. Astronomer, of course, is the company behind Astro. Astro is the unified DataOps platform powered by Apache Airflow – an open-source workflow management platform for data engineering pipelines.

Byron’s wife, Megan Kerrigan, serves as Associate Director of Lower School. The couple has been married for several years and have children together. But last Wednesday, Byron was seen with Kristin Cabot, Astronomer’s “chief people officer”, on the “kiss cam” screen at Gillette Stadium in Foxborough, Massachusetts, during a Coldplay concert.

After realizing they had been caught on video at the stadium, Byron and Cabot reflexively ducked out of view from the camera to avoid being caught.

It didn’t work.

After the show, a 28-year-old Coldplay fan posted a video of Byron and his alleged mistress, Kristin Cabot, online. The video has now surpassed 122 million views. Astronomer’s website has announced that Byron has resigned from his role as CEO, and co-founder Pete DeJoy has taken over the helm.

Astronomer issued the following statement.

“Astronomer is committed to the values and culture that have guided us since our founding. Our leaders are expected to set the standard in both conduct and accountability, and recently, that standard was not met.”

Worse, reports suggest Byron’s wife Kerrigan has been “scrubbing” her social media presence by deleting Instagram and Facebook pages. Some observers claim she changed her Facebook page to remove her last name, but it’s not clear when that was changed.

Florida Divorce and Infidelity

I’ve written about the intersection of divorce and cheating before – albeit without references to Coldplay’s songs. Adultery can be the cause of a divorce, but can it impact the outcome of your care? There is still a statutory basis in Florida for infidelity to be an issue in your divorce proceedings, but not in the way most people think.

Adultery may impact the division of property. Florida is an equitable distribution state, and it is presumed that property should be evenly divided. This presumption may be overcome by proof that one spouse intentionally wasted marital assets.

This waste is sometimes known as dissipation. Paying for expensive alternative rock band concerts, jewelry, foreign trips, and dinners for girlfriends and boyfriends is considered wasting marital assets. The court has the power to reduce an adulterer’s equitable distribution to credit the marital estate for waste.

Florida law specifically provides that a court may consider the adultery of either spouse in determining the amount of alimony, if any, to be awarded. However, courts have struggled to reconcile the “fault” of adultery with the concept of “no fault” divorce. The result is a mix of weak opinions.

Chapter 61 discusses the “the moral fitness of the parents” as one of the factors the court considers in determining the best interests of a child. So, if one parent can prove that the other parent’s adultery had, or is reasonably likely to have, an adverse impact on the child, the judge can consider adultery in evaluating what’s in the best interest of the child. However, it would be extremely unusual (and even unlikely) for a custody case to be decided on those grounds.

Viva la Vida

Astronomer has acknowledged that “awareness of our company may have changed overnight,” but that its mission would continue to be focused on addressing data and artificial intelligence problems. Byron’s LinkedIn account is no longer public and he was removed from the company’s leadership page at Astronomer following the announcement. The site now lists co-founder Pete DeJoy as CEO.

The Byrons are rumored to reside in a small town near Foxborough, the site of the now-infamous Coldplay concert. If so, they would be governed under Massachusetts law. Although Massachusetts is a no-fault state, adultery is one of the potential fault grounds that a spouse can cite when filing for divorce in Massachusetts. This is known as a fault-based divorce as opposed to a no-fault divorce. Choosing whether to cite adultery as grounds for your Massachusetts divorce is a major decision to discuss with counsel.

The CNN article is here.

Biblical Grounds for Divorce

Are there biblical grounds for divorce you may not be aware of? The wife of the Texas Attorney General, who is a State Senator herself, just announced she is filing for divorce in her 38 year marriage “on biblical grounds.” The senator’s X post has Texans ‘talking the hides off cows’ about biblical divorces.

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In the beginning . . .

Angela Paxton is a Texas state senator; she is also the wife of Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton. Senator Paxton recently wrote in a social media post that she has filed for divorce:

Today, after 38 years of marriage, I filed for divorce on biblical grounds. I believe marriage is a sacred covenant and I have earnestly pursued reconciliation. But in light of recent discoveries, I do not believe that it honors God or is loving to myself, my children, or Ken to remain in the marriage.

Ken Paxton pointed to “countless political attacks and public scrutiny” in his own X posting, saying the two “have decided to start a new chapter in our lives. I could not be any more proud or grateful for the incredible family that God has blessed us with, and I remain committed to supporting our amazing children and grandchildren. I ask for your prayers and privacy at this time.”

Texas has preserved the right to file for fault that caused the breakdown of the marriage, and these are grounds for divorce that go back well more than 100 years. One of the fault bases would be adultery, and that’s probably what the senator is referring to.

Florida Divorce Reasons

The official term for divorce in Florida is “dissolution of marriage”, and you don’t need fault as a ground for divorce. Florida abolished fault as a ground for divorce. I’ve written about no fault divorce and infidelity issues before. The no-fault concept in Florida means you no longer have to prove a reason for the divorce, like your husband’s allegedly failing to be faithful. Instead, you just need to state under oath that your marriage is “irretrievably broken.”

Before the no-fault divorce era, people who wanted to get a divorce either had to reach an agreement in advance with the other spouse that their marriage was over, or throw Texas Mud Pies at each other in court to prove some wrongdoing, like adultery.

No fault laws were the result of trying to change the way divorces played out in court. No fault laws have reduced the number of feuding couples who felt the need to resort to distort facts, lie, and the need to focus the trial on who did what to whom.

Don’t Mess with Texas Fam. Code §6.003

The Paxton announcement throws a wrench into attorney general Paxton’s efforts to oust U.S. Senator John Cornyn in one of the nation’s most closely watched U.S. Senate primaries. Democrats are looking for more senate races in which their candidates can be competitive. Democrats see Paxton as an easier target. So Paxton has to be careful not to ‘tip over the outhouse.’

The National Republican Senatorial Committee, the Senate GOP’s campaign arm, sharply criticized Paxton in a statement that offered a window into how bitter the primary race could become:

“What Ken Paxton has put his family through is truly repulsive and disgusting. No one should have to endure what Angela Paxton has, and we pray for her as she chooses to stand up for herself and her family during this difficult time”.

Paxton is a strident conservative and ally of President Donald Trump who earned a national reputation by frequently suing to try to block the actions of former Presidents Barack Obama and Joe Biden in federal court.

Angela Paxton was present for the Senate’s impeachment trial, in which Paxton was also accused of having an extramarital affair with a woman who was hired by the real estate developer, but she was not ‘fixin’ to vote.’ He was acquitted by the more conservative senate, where an ally, Lt. Gov. Dan Patrick, presided over the trial.

Cornyn, proving ‘no tongue was hurt by speaking softly’ was asked by CNN for his comment: “Seems like a private matter.” But Cornyn’s campaign on X shared a local news report citing Angela Paxton’s divorce filing, as well as the NRSC’s statement lambasting the attorney general.

The CNN article is here.

Using AI and Divorce

Lawyers and non-lawyers alike, are increasingly using AI in their divorce cases and ending up in trouble. One Atlanta divorce lawyer who repeatedly cited to phony legal cases in her client’s divorce papers found out that using AI in your divorce can badly harm your case.

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Deus Ex Machina

Generative AI is saving lawyers time and money, but if used improperly, it could cost them their livelihoods. Generative AI is a type of AI model that creates new content, such as text, images, or music, based on large amounts of training data.

Examples for text include OpenAI’s ChatGPT, Microsoft’s Copilot, Google’s Gemini, Meta’s Llama, and Anthropic’s Claude, and for images ChatGPT, Gemini, Adobe and Midjourney. A generative AI model that is text-based is called a large language model.

But here’s the thing. When given a question or prompt, AI uses learned patterns to predict the best outputs, such as your motion or brief. Training a generative AI model takes months because of the enormous amounts of data and the neural network’s process of learning and optimization.

Generative AI is impressive but not perfect. AI predictions are just suggestions, and they can be wrong.

Atlanta divorce lawyer, Diana Lynch, is reported to have drafted an order a judge signed in May 2024 that referenced two cases that don’t exist. Lynch’s client filed for divorce in April 2022 and received a divorce decree in July of that year.

In October 2023, the ex-wife asked the county judge to reopen the case and set aside the divorce decree, claiming she had moved to Texas in 2021 and had not been properly served with the complaint. The judge denied the ex-wife’s request in a three-page order in May 2024.

But then the ex-wife’s appealed, and she pointed out the trial judge relied on two fake cases in her order denying her motion, rendering the order void.

Florida Bar and AI Use

I have written about computer and high tech issues in divorce before. Florida was the first state to issue an ethics opinion regarding the use of AI. To ensure client confidentiality, you should confirm that you maintain ownership of any uploaded data, learn how to delete your data, and review the AI provider’s license terms or representations regarding confidentiality.

Free AI models use your questions and uploaded documents to train future models. To maintain client confidentiality, you will need a paid subscription.

U.S. Supreme Court Chief Justice John Roberts warned in his 2023 report on the judiciary that commonly used AI applications can be prone to “hallucinations,” causing lawyers to submit briefs citing fake cases, the Georgia judges said. Hallucinations arise when an AI model generates incorrect or nonsensical information and they are factually inaccurate.

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On appeal. a three judge panel on the court of appeals in Georgia found that Ms. Lynch was not deterred when she was accused by her client’s ex-wife of making up case law references. In fact, she filed a response citing 11 cases that were also either fake or irrelevant.

“The irregularities in these filings suggest that they were drafted using generative AI. We are troubled by the citation of bogus cases in the trial court’s order.”

The judges said it might be the first time a Georgia appeals court has confronted the problems that can flow from a lawyer’s apparent use of artificial intelligence that generates content. They said other courts have tackled the issue. They also said Lynch added insult to injury by requesting attorney fees in relation to the ex-wife’s appeal and even used a phony case to support the request.

The judges imposed the maximum penalty on Lynch for her “frivolous” bid for attorney fees. They sent the case back to the DeKalb County judge to reconsider the ex-wife’s request to set aside the divorce decree. Their opinion references a study by Stanford researchers, who found generative AI models, including ChatGPT, “hallucinate” around 75% of the time when answering questions about a court’s core ruling.

The article is here.

Are TikTok Gifts Divorce Dissipation or Just Good Business

TikTok allows you to make monetary gifts. After one husband made over $300,000 in marital gifts to others on TikTok during his divorce, a court must decide if it is wasteful dissipation or just good business. It is easier than you think to spend and hide marital assets online as one New York trial court discovers.

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New York State of Mind

Social Media “gifts” allow a social influencer online to earn real money from followers. TikTok revolutionized online content monetization for creators, and now offers an array of over 100 different gifts. For example, an “I Love You” gift is valued at 49 coins and is worth approximately 65¢. On the other end of the spectrum, a “TikTok Universe” gift has a value of 44,999 coins which is worth about $562.

On April 9, 2025, a couple filed for divorce in New York after eight years of marriage. There are three children of the marriage. Most notably, the Husband and Wife are both attorneys licensed to practice law in the State of New York.

At a recent hearing, the Wife asked the court to appoint a guardian ad litem over her Husband, not the children. In New York, a guardian ad litem can be appointed for a litigant if the litigant appears to be in an “apparently chronic irrational and agitated state” resulting in the individual’s inability to effectively litigate their case without assistance.

To prove a guardian was appropriate, she alleged her Husband had become increasingly paranoid, erratic and aggressive on his TikTok “live streams” and was actively dissipating marital assets.

The court heard evidence of the Husband’s recordings on TikTok some of which were filmed right outside the courtroom:

“CJB [the husband] got Court tomorrow. Ain’t no mother fucking judge check me. CJB is vibing right now. Don’t worry about the consequences.”

In his defense, the Husband characterized his TikTok expenditures as investments rather than gifts. He confirmed that he spent at least $300,000.00 on TikTok, approximately $275,000.00 after the divorce was filed: “So, Judge, when it comes to give away money, I don’t — I can’t affirmatively say I have given away money. Have I made — these are marketing and business expenses.”

Florida Dissipation

I’ve written about dissipation of marital assets before. In a divorce proceeding, when distributing the marital assets between spouses, a family court must begin with the premise that the distribution should be equal, unless there is a justification for an unequal distribution based on all relevant factors.

One factor is whether one of the parties intentionally dissipated, wasted, depleted, or destroyed any of the marital assets after the filing of the petition or within two years prior to the filing of the petition.

For an expenditure to be considered dissipation, there must be evidence of intentional misconduct. This means that the spending spouse must have intentionally used marital funds for their own benefit and for a purpose unrelated to the marriage. Simple mismanagement or squandering of an asset, even if the other spouse disapproves, does not constitute dissipation.

It’s up to you New York

In the New York case, the court appointed a guardian ad litem for the Husband as the Wife met the criteria. The Husband was found to have engaged in dishonest conduct. He represented to the court he was represented by legal counsel, and then admitted he had not yet retained counsel.

Additionally, the Husband was in violation of New York’s Automatic Orders by failing to file a statement of net worth. Moreover, the Husband admitted to the judge that he had been spending approximately $275,000.00 on TikTok after the commencement of this action.

The New York decision is available here.

The Risks of a Divorce Without a Prenuptial Agreement

Prominent Hollywood entertainment executive, David Geffen, may learn if there are risks in a divorce without a prenuptial agreement. Geffen is currently married to his husband of two years, David Armstrong, a 32-year old dancer. A California court will apply community property and other laws to determine what risks, if any, Geffen faces if he is not able to resolve his divorce amicably.

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Risky Business

Geffen rose from modest beginnings in Brooklyn to become one of the world’s best film producers and record executives. In rock and roll, Geffen is a founder of Asylum Records and Geffen Records. He has worked with Elton John, Cher, Weezer, Blink 182, Guns N’ Roses, and Nirvana.

As a film producer, Geffen’s credits include “Risky Business” and “Beetlejuice before forming DreamWorks SKG with Steven Spielberg and Jeffrey Katzenberg. DreamWorks won Best Picture for the films American Beauty, Gladiator, and A Beautiful Mind, and was later sold to Paramount for $1.6 billion.

Then in 2008, at ate 65, he mostly stayed away from the business. Citing “irreconcilable differences,” Geffen intends to pay alimony — generally for a duration of about half the length of the two-year marriage – which could be sizeable given Geffen has an estimate net worth of more than $8 billion. Most interesting though, the divorce petition indicates that the couple did not sign a prenuptial agreement.

Florida Prenuptial Agreements

I’ve written about prenuptial agreements before. Prenuptial agreements are about more than just resolving uncertainty in a marriage.

When a spouse is a major shareholder of company, such as a movie studio, the stock price can be subject to wide price swings. For example, when the head of Continental Resources was getting divorced, shares of his company dropped 2.9%.

Conversely, when Rupert Murdoch announced his divorce, shares of News Corp gained 1.4%. Why? Because in Rupert Murdoch’s case, the divorce announcement stressed his prenuptial agreement, and a divorce would have “zero impact” on the company.

A prenuptial agreement (or “prenup” for short) is a contract between people intending to marry. A prenup determines spousal rights when the marriage ends by death or divorce. This can be especially important in second marriages.

If you divorce without a prenup, your property rights are determined under state law, and a spouse may have a claim to alimony while the suit for divorce is pending and after entry of a judgment.

That’s where prenups come in. Prospective spouses may limit or expand state laws by an agreement. Prenups are also used to protect the interests of children from a prior marriage, and to avoid a contested divorce. Prenups can be a reliable guide down rough rivers if they’re done right.

Little Shop of Horrors?

Marrying without a prenuptial agreement may not have to be a horror show, but will likely be more expensive than marrying without one for Geffen. He has many things in his favor going into settlement negotiations.

Geffen and Armstrong have a short-term marriage of two-years. Armstrong is 32 years old, and at age 82, Geffen is rumored to have slowed down in business. These facts may work out in Geffen’s favor financially.

It’s not clear why Geffen, a highly successful businessman, did not have a prenup. Early indications are that the divorce is amicable so far, which could suit everyone well.

The New York Times article is here.

Divorce, Dissipation and an $1,800 Scotch

The dissipation of marital assets in divorce is always something to watch for, especially when the marital asset is a $1,800 bottle of 1976 The Glenrothes Single Cask Single Malt Scotch Whisky. An Ohio court recently had to decide what to do when an expensive bottle of Scotch turned up missing.

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The Shot

If, as they say, ‘all happy families are alike, and each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way’ the case of the missing scotch is proof. In the recent Ohio matter the Mother and Father had been married over twenty years. Together, they raised three children, two now-adult children and one minor child. The Mother, Father, and child lived together in a house located in Blue Ash, Ohio outside of Cincinnati.

Then in April 2022, ongoing marital problems caused the couple to separate, and the Father moved out of their Blue Ash home. Following their separation, the relationship between the parties continued to deteriorate. Father eventually asked for an received a domestic violence injunction against Mother.

During the final hearing in their dissolution of the marriage, among the many claims, the Father argued that the Mother had denied him the opportunity to retrieve his personal items from the Blue Ash home. During the trial, the Father testified he had left behind his family memorabilia, some religious heirlooms, and most importantly, a bottle of 1976 Glenrothes Single Malt Scotch before he had moved out of the marital home.

The Father explained to the court that while he was given a brief opportunity to collect a few of his personal items from the home, the Mother never gave him a sufficient opportunity to meaningfully collect his belongings. He testified the Mother told him that she put the items he had left behind in storage and that he would be able to retrieve them the next time she was in Ohio.

Despite the Mother’s telling him that his personal possessions were in storage, and that he would be able to retrieve them, it was just not so. In fact, the Mother would later testify that she called a trash service and had all of the Father’s personal property (his heirlooms, religious mementos, and of course, the Scotch) destroyed. She also admitted that she did not tell the Father before tossing his personal belongings in the municipal dump.

At the trial, the court ruled that because of the Mother’s destruction of Father’s bottle of 1976 Glenrothes Single Malt Scotch and his other personal effects, she was to pay him $5,000. The Mother appealed.

Florida Dissipation

I’ve written about dissipation of marital assets before. In a proceeding for dissolution of marriage, when distributing the marital assets between spouses, a family court must begin with the premise that the distribution should be equal, unless there is a justification for an unequal distribution based on all relevant factors.

Some of the factors to justify an unequal distribution of the property include things like the financial situation the parties, the length of the marriage, whether someone has interrupted their career or an educational opportunity, or how much one spouse contributed to the other’s career or education.

Another important factor is whether one of the parties intentionally dissipated, wasted, depleted, or destroyed any of the marital assets after the filing of the petition or within two years prior to the filing of the petition.

Dissipation of marital assets, such as spending marital funds on extramarital relationships, excessive gambling, and drug use, are examples which happens a lot. Less common is gifting your husband’s $1,800 bottle of scotch whiskey to trash collectors. Misconduct may serve as a basis for assigning the dissipated asset to the spending spouse when calculating equitable distribution.

When considering whether the dissipation of an asset resulted from misconduct, courts look to see if a spouse used marital funds for his or her own benefit and for a purpose unrelated to the marriage at a time when the marriage is undergoing an irreconcilable breakdown. Merely mismanaging or simple squandering of marital assets is not enough. There has to be evidence of intentional dissipation or destruction.

The Chaser

On appeal, the Mother took issue with the court’s $5,000 contempt penalty for having Father’s items destroyed. The appellate court found that the penalty constituted an equitable offset because the Mother had denied Father the opportunity to collect his equitable distribution of household goods and furnishings.

This offset included all “remaining household goods, keepsakes, and furnishings,” which would include the bottle of 1976 Glenrothes Single Malt Scotch.  Accordingly, the appellate court rule the Mother’s claim that the family court failed to include the value of the bottle of scotch in the marital assets was without merit.

The Ohio Court of Appeal opinion is here.