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Equal Child Custody Bill

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Attorneys and judges in Mississippi are voicing opposition to an equal child custody bill that would make joint custody of children the standard in all divorce cases. If the proposal becomes law, tens of thousands of Mississippi parents could be affected by the policy. A similar bill was enacted into law in Florida.

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One Mississippi . . .

If the bill is signed into law, it would take effect July 1, 2026. Under the bill, chancery court judges would be required to favor equal parenting time in custody cases. However, parents could present evidence rebutting why equal custody is not in the best interest of their children.

Mississippi’s proposed legislation specifies that the presumption of joint custody will not apply if the court finds a history of violence with one of the parents. However, that would require a “preponderance of evidence” — attorneys have to prove it is more likely than not that violence occurred. The bill also exempts parents who agree on a different custody arrangement outside of court.

Proponents say the legislation will create equal opportunities for fathers who have suffered from courts’ bias that mothers are more worthy of custody. Critics say the bill feigns equality but will be less equitable for vulnerable women and children, including infants who are breastfeeding and mothers who are in domestic violence situations.

Florida Equal Timesharing

I have written about Florida’s efforts to enact equal timesharing. Beginning after July 2023, there was enacted a change to the child custody law that there be a rebuttable presumption that equal time-sharing of a minor child is in the best interests of the minor child.

To rebut the presumption, a parent must prove by a preponderance of the evidence that equal time-sharing is not in the best interests of the minor child. The court must evaluate approximately 20 statutory factors, including things like: evidence of domestic or sexual Violence, substance abuse, health issues that significantly impair a parent’s ability to safely care for the child.

Mississippi Queen

Rep. Dana McLean, a Republican from Columbus, pleaded with her colleagues on the floor Tuesday to reconsider the legislation. McLean said it was problematic that breastfeeding infants would also be subject to a presumption that being separated from their mother half the time was best for them.

“We’re talking about breastfeeding babies just coming home from the hospital,” McLean said on the floor. “And I know that the best interest of an infant would be to be with their mother initially.”

Judges would still have authority to override the presumption, responded Rep. Joey Hood, a Republican from Ackerman and chairman of the House Judiciary A Committee where the bill originated. Judges currently award custody on a case-by-case basis using the Albright factors, a rubric that includes caregiving history, emotional ties and the age of the child.

The Mississippi bill would also change how child support is calculated. Under current Mississippi law, child support is based primarily on the income of the higher-earning parent. Under HB 1662, courts would be required to compare both parents’ incomes and calculate the difference, potentially changing what you pay or receive each month.

In 2017, Kentucky became the first of five states to adopt a joint custody presumption law. Since then, instances have arisen where women and children have suffered abuse because the law compelled them to interact with violent ex-spouses and caregivers, according to The Wall Street Journal.

Eight family attorneys and chancery court judges told Mississippi Today they believe the current custody system is the most fair, and the new legislation would set a dangerous legal precedent. If mothers are awarded custody more often than fathers, it’s not because of an inherent bias but rather a history of being the primary caregiver and fostering emotional closeness, said Kelly Williams, a Ridgeland-based attorney and a child welfare law specialist certified by the National Association of Counsel for Children.

The article is here.

Haircuts Child Custody and Religion

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The intersection of child custody, religion, and haircuts is under review after a California a family court weighed the religious convictions of a father who, as a practicing Sikh, wants his children’s hair left uncut. Who has the power to decide whether to give a simple haircut when religious rights are involved?

Child Custody Haircut

Almost Cut My Hair

The parents of two children, a girl aged 7, and a boy aged 5 went to trial over child custody. The Father practices the Sikh faith, whose primary tenets are uncut hair from birth (kesh), as well as use of a bracelet (kara), a small comb (kanga), undergarment (kacha) and a small dagger (kirpan).

When their first child was conceived, he and the mother discussed raising her in the Sikh faith. The children wear a bracelet to remind them not to do wrong. The son started wearing a head covering, called a patka, before he was two years old, and has continued doing so without objections.

The Mother argued the Father harasses her with requests to not cut the children’s hair despite the children having had haircuts beginning as early as four months old; despite the children’s preference and standard to have their hair groomed to their liking, hygiene, and social standards. Besides, there is no court order prohibiting the children having their hair cut.

The trial court found it in the best interest of the children to leave the haircut decision to the children themselves. If the children express a desire to have their hair cut, that was okay, but no buzz cuts for the son. Additionally, the daughter’s hair cannot be cut shorter than shoulder length so the father will be able to braid her hair. The Father appealed.

Florida Religion and Child Custody

I’ve written about the intersection of religion and divorce. However, the issue of religion and haircuts is not a common complaint in family court. Religion, religious beliefs, and religious practices are not statutory factors Florida courts consider when determining parental responsibility.

Nor is religion an area in which a parent may be granted ultimate responsibility over a child. Instead, the weight religion plays in custody disputes has grown over time in various cases. Why?

Because placing restrictions on a parent’s right to expose his or her child to religious beliefs has consistently been overturned by courts in the absence of a clear, affirmative showing that the religious activities at issue will be harmful to the child.

Generally, Florida courts will not stop a parent from practicing their religion or from influencing the religious training of their child inconsistent with that of the other parent. Religious practices can be restricted, however, when there is a clear, affirmative showing that they “will be harmful to the child.”

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The California appeals court noted that parents have a constitutional right to direct the inculcation of moral standards, religious beliefs, and elements of good citizenship. In California, a court will not stop a parent from discussing religion with the child or involving the child in his or her religious activities in the absence of a showing that the child will be thereby harmed.

The trial court failed to determine whether the mother showed that if the children adhered to the father’s Sikh faith regarding haircuts, patka and bracelets, they would be harmed. Harm to a child from conflicting religious instructions or practices cannot be simply assumed, it must be demonstrated in detail.

The family judge also erred when he subordinated the father’s constitutional rights to the children’s wishes by allowing the children themselves to decide if they wanted to wear bracelets and cut their hair. The family judge deferred to the children without first determining if the children were mature enough to understand the religious observances.

The appellate court reversed the ruling permitting the child’s hair to be cut and deferring to their wishes and directed the family judge to decide if the children’s adherence to father’s religion would be harmful to the children.

The California opinion is here.

Divorce, Custody, and Mortgages

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A recent Wall Street Journal article discusses a growing problem. For many couples going through divorce, they bought their house and have a low-interest rate mortgage. Since they are separating, they now have to work out child custody.  So, how are divorcing couples managing in this current, high-interest-rate, high-rent market, and minimizing the disruption on their children?

Custody Nesting

The Good Old Days

You’re married, have children, and have a home with a mortgage. Lucky for you, you locked in your mortgage rate in 2021, when the average 30-year fixed mortgage rate dipped to an all-time low of 2.68 percent.

These days, the average interest rate on a 30-year fixed mortgage stands at 6.35 percent. As recently as January, the average 30-year fixed mortgage rate exceeded 7 percent.

Each percentage point decrease in a mortgage rate can save thousands or tens of thousands in additional cost each year, depending on the price of the house. For any couple locked in at a historically low interest rate, how do you avoid selling the marital home in a down market when interest rates and the cost of ownership are substantially higher?

The Wall Street Journal recently explored a growing trend for parenting plans among divorcing couples: “nesting”. Nesting is a parenting plan in which children remain in the marital home while the parents timeshare in the marital home. Instead of forcing children to shuttle between two homes, the parents do the shuttling.

Florida Parenting Plans

I’ve written on Florida’s attempts to legislate the parenting plan concept before, including complex and international custody and other issues.

In Florida, a Parenting Plan is required in all cases involving time-sharing with minor children, even when timesharing is not in dispute.

A “Parenting plan” is a document created to govern the relationship between the parents relating to decisions that must be made regarding the minor child and must contain a time-sharing schedule for the parents and the child.

The issues concerning the minor child include the child’s home, education, health care, and physical, social, and emotional well-being. In creating the plan, all circumstances between the parents, including their historic relationship, domestic violence, and other factors are taken into consideration.

The Parenting Plan must be developed and agreed to by the parents and approved by the court. If the parties cannot agree to a Parenting Plan or if the parents agreed to a plan that is not approved by the court, a Parenting Plan will be established by the court with or without the use of parenting plan recommendations.

Bird Nesting

Every family situation in a divorce is different. Nesting may be an option to consider. Some parents rent a small studio or apartment near the marital home, keeping essentials like toiletries, chargers, and even spare glasses to reduce disruptions. The child usually stays only in the family home, not the secondary space.

Many families often reassess whether nesting still works, as it requires significant compromise and coordination. Divorce is already a compromise, and nesting adds more to that complexity. Lawyers note that a “fair” settlement often leaves both parties somewhat dissatisfied.

Selling the marital home may free up the equity in the home, but selling also forces both spouses into today’s high housing costs and high mortgage interest rates. A buyout requires refinancing, often at much higher interest rates. Renting an additional apartment adds to ongoing expenses, and is not cheap in Miami.

Some divorcing families prefer to keep their shared traditions, such as their weekly meals in the main house. Children sometimes frame the arrangement in positive terms, such as “camping out” with one parent. Still, blurred boundaries can create challenges for parents.

Nesting offers stability for children but comes at high emotional and financial costs for parents. It requires constant negotiation, limits your privacy from your ex-spouse, and still brings extra housing expense. For some divorcing couples, nesting is a transitional and temporary arrangement. For other couples, nesting lasts years – provided both parents can tolerate the compromises.

The Wall Street Journal article is here (paywall).

International Custody, Hague Convention, and the Settled Defense

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In a recent international custody case for return under the Hague Convention, a mother asserts a defense her son is settled in the U.S. and shouldn’t be returned. But his grades are bad, he misses school, and his connections to his stepfather’s family come at the expense of his longer relationship with family in Brazil. After the trial court orders him returned to Brazil, will the appellate court reverse?

Hague Now Settled

Boa Sorte

Both parents, and the child A.R., are all citizens and natives of Brazil. The parents were married in 2011, and lived in Belo Horizonte, Brazil (meaning “beautiful horizon” and pictured above). In 2016 they separated, and finally divorced in 2021. The parents shared custody of A.R., but A.R. lived with the mother. The mother then began a relationship with a man who immigrated to the United States.

The father signed a passport application that included a travel authorization permitting A.R. to travel outside of Brazil. The mother and A.R. then flew to Mexico, where they crossed the Mexico-United States border in 2022. She then applied for asylum.

Upon discovering the abduction, the father filed a petition to return A.R. to Brazil. The trial court in the U.S. found the father had met his prima facie burden to show A.R. was wrongfully removed from Brazil. Then, it rejected all the affirmative defenses the mother raised about consent, the now settled defense and the grave risk of harm. The Mother appealed.

Florida and the Hague Convention

I have spoken and written about the Hague Abduction Convention and international child custody issues before. The Hague Abduction Convention establishes legal rights and procedures for the prompt return of children who have been wrongfully removed or retained.

The International Child Abduction Remedies Act is the statute in the United States that implements the Hague Abduction Convention. Under the Act, a person may petition a court authorized to exercise jurisdiction in the country where a child is located for the return of the child to his or her habitual residence in another signatory country, so the underlying child custody dispute can be determined in the proper jurisdiction.

The Hague Convention applies only in jurisdictions that have signed the convention, and its reach is limited to children under 16 years of age. Essentially, The Hague Convention helps families more quickly revert back to the “status quo” child custody arrangement before the wrongful child abduction. The Hague Convention exists to protect children from international abductions by requiring the prompt return to their habitual residence.

But there are defenses too. If return proceedings have been commenced after the expiration of a period of one year, courts can order the return of a child to their habitual residence, unless it is demonstrated that the child is now settled in its new environment.

Não Me Deixe Só

In rejecting the settled defense at the trial level, and ordering the child returned to Brazil, the district court analyzed several factors: age, stability and duration of the residence; whether the child consistently attended school; friends and relatives; involvement in the community and in extracurricular activities; employment and financial stability; and immigration status.

But on appeal, the circuit court found A.R. had lived in the same community for nearly three years, a significant amount of time for a school-age child. Also, his mother has steady employment and income. Those facts, standing alone, weigh heavily in favor of finding A.R. to be “now settled.”

A.R., it was also found, benefitted from a supportive extended family. He had a step-aunt and step-uncle who lived nearby and saw him twice a month. Despite A.R.’s poor grades and disruptive behavior, he arrived from Brazil unable to read or write in Portuguese, let alone in English, and was “meeting expectations of the classroom.”

The circuit court also found that A.R. attended church twice a month, participated in a youth group, had several friends of Brazilian descent, and importantly, played on a Massachusetts soccer team twice a week.

The circuit court remanded for the district court to decide whether, in the exercise of equitable discretion, returning A.R. to Brazil is warranted despite the appellate court finding that his status was “now settled.”

The case is here.

Punishment and Domestic Violence

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When does child discipline cross the line between punishment and domestic violence? It is a frequent child custody issue which can impact parental rights and timesharing. After a Colorado ski vacation, two parents found out how Florida courts look at punishing your teenager for marijuana, theft, and ingratitude.

Punishment Domestic Violence

Rocky Mountain High

The two Florida parents divorced in 2018. About four years after their divorce, a domestic violence injunction was filed by the mother against the father on behalf of their fourteen-year-old daughter. The Mother alleged in her petition that the father had punched the daughter; grabbed her by the hair, and then sat on his daughter. Worse, while sitting on top of her, the father continued to punch and slap his daughter.

At the trial, the Father testified that he and his daughter had just returned from a Colorado ski vacation during the winter holidays. When they returned, his daughter had given him a pair of socks as a gift. Either very suspicious, or just unhappy with his gift, the father suspected the gift socks were stolen.

The father searched the daughter’s room to see if there were other stolen items. In her backpack from the ski trip to Colorado, the father found marijuana, a pipe, and a vape pen. Colorado, remember, became the first state in the U.S. to sell legal recreational marijuana for adult use. The father announced he was going to punish the daughter for stealing, lying, and possessing marijuana and a vape pen by taking away her most cherished item, her phone.

The daughter refused to give the father her phone, obviously, and they ended up tussling over it. At some point, the daughter snapped the father’s finger back and broke it.

The father refused to return her phone, and the daughter threw a metal thermos and an orange juice bottle. Father denied punching her, pulling her hair, or sitting on her. The daughter told the neighbor she had gotten into an argument with her father but did not need the neighbor to call the police.

The daughter then went back to the father’s house. The neighbor testified the daughter did not seem fearful to return to her father’s house. She then came back to the neighbor’s house and asked for a ride to the mother’s house. During the car ride, the neighbor did not see any physical injuries on the daughter

The mother testified she saw a bruise on the daughter’s back, leg, and arm. The mother took pictures of the bruises. A Child Protection Investigator testified there were “no indicators of mental or physical injury because the parties were deemed as mutual combatants.” The CPI observed “a little black and blue” on the daughter’s shoulder and arm but no bruising or marks. The guardian ad litem for the child also testified, and said it was a mutual combatant situation, and “absolutely 100 percent inappropriate.”

The trial court found there was competent substantial evidence that the daughter is in fear, and granted the injunction for six months. Father appealed.

Punishment in Florida

I’ve written about spanking and custody before. In Florida, parents have a right to discipline their child in a reasonable manner. Florida has strong laws for the protection against domestic violence. Domestic violence includes any assault, battery or any other offense resulting in physical injury of a family member by another family member.

However, parents have to discipline their children, and as the good book says:

“Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.”

A parent’s right to administer reasonable corporal punishment to discipline a child is not a crime when it does not result in harm to the child. Harm, by the way, does not mean just bruises or welts. Harm also means that the discipline is likely to result in physical injury, mental injury, or emotional injury. Even if you don’t physically harm a child, your actions could be criminal.

Florida’s parental privilege to use corporal discipline does not give absolute immunity either. Your run-of-the-mill spanking may be protected from charges of child abuse, but sitting on your child, punching her on the floor and pulling her hair is not. While there are some limited privileges for discipline, there are major risks to your custody case, your domestic violence case, and most importantly, to your children.

The High Court

The argument by the father on appeal was that the altercation between he and his cellphone addicted teenage daughter was nothing more than the father exercising his right to discipline his child. He argued his actions were appropriate physical discipline, rather than an assault, battery, aggravated assault, or aggravated battery.

There was also no history of domestic violence by the father toward the daughter or evidence that would give her a reason to believe she was about to be subjected to domestic violence. The injunction was based solely on the one post-Colorado ski trip incident between a father and his teenage daughter in which he physically wrenched the cellphone from her.

The 4th DCA reversed. The father’s physical and verbal actions in taking away the daughter’s cell phone was a form of physical discipline, not corporal punishment. The appellate court ruled that even if it was punishment, it was not excessive corporal punishment because the daughter refused to surrender her phone, and there was no evidence of disfigurement or significant bruising on the child.

The opinion is available here.

Fighting Paternity and UCCJEA Jurisdiction

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A husband and wife, who marry in Brazil, agree the husband does not have paternity and is not the legal father of their daughter. But that does not stop them from fighting UCCJEA jurisdiction in Florida. What happens when the court disagrees with them that he’s not the Father? A married couple just found out the results in an interesting international child custody case.

UCCJEA Paternity

The Girl from Ipanema

The Wife is a Brazilian citizen living in Rio de Janeiro not far from the famous beach. The Husband is a U.S. citizen, a commercial airline pilot, and resides in Florida. The parties met online in 2014. They later were married in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil in 2016.

The wife had a daughter born in Brazil in 2015, the year before they got married. Interestingly, while the wife acknowledged she was the biological mother, the parties stipulated that the husband was not the biological father.

However, the Husband added his last name to the child’s name on the child’s birth certificate in Brazil. Later, they went to the U.S. Consulate in Brazil, and had a Consular Report of Birth Abroad Certificate issued for the child using his citizenship and his last name for the child.

Next, they had issued a U.S. passport and a Brazilian passport for the child using his last name as the father as well. It was later found that the husband held himself out as the father of his daughter during the marriage. The parties owned one marital asset, a home in Naples, Florida.

In 2021, the Husband filed a petition for divorce in Florida seeking only the following relief: (1) a dissolution of marriage and (2) and equitable distribution of the home in Naples. The Wife filed an answer denying allegations but did not raise the issue of the child, custody, or child support.

During the case, the parties entered a partial marital settlement agreement resolving all of the financial issues, including equitable distribution of the home. However, nothing was agreed, or mentioned, about their daughter.

Instead, the parties filed a stipulation that the husband was not the father of the child. Additionally, the husband filed an objection before trial that the court lacked jurisdiction to hear child support and custody under the UCCJEA because Florida was not the home state of the child.

The family judge entered a amended final judgment finding that the husband was the legal father of the child, and reserved jurisdiction on child support.

The Husband filed a motion for reconsideration arguing that under the UCCJEA, a court in Florida has jurisdiction to make an initial child custody determination only if Florida is the home state of the child or was the home state of the child within 6 months before the commencement of the proceeding and the child is absent from this state but a parent continues to live in Florida. The court denied the motion for reconsideration and the husband appealed.

Florida UCCJEA

I have written about international child custody issues before. The UCCJEA is a uniform act drafted to avoid jurisdictional competition and conflict with other state courts in child custody matters; promote cooperation with other courts; ensure that a custody decree is rendered in the state which enjoys the superior position to decide what is in the best interest of the child; deter controversies and avoid re-litigation of custody issues; facilitate enforcement of custody decrees; and promote uniformity of the laws governing custody issues.

An important aspect of the UCCJEA is that it only covers child custody determinations. Under the UCCJEA, a “child custody determination” means a judgment, decree, or other order of a court providing for the legal custody, physical custody, residential care, or visitation with respect to a child. The term includes a permanent, temporary, initial, and modification order. The definition does not include an order relating to child support or other monetary obligation of an individual.

The UCCJEA deals with “child custody proceedings,” which are defined as proceedings in which legal custody, physical custody, residential care, or visitation with respect to a child is an issue. Child Custody proceedings do not include proceedings involving juvenile delinquency, contractual emancipation, or enforcement.

Although not part of the UCCJEA, under Florida law, the husband could have also faced additional challenges. For instance, if a mother of any child born out of wedlock and the reputed father intermarry, the child is deemed and held to be the child of the husband and wife, as though born within wedlock.

Boa Sorte

On appeal, the third district affirmed that the husband was the legal father of their daughter. The court noted that the UCCJEA was a jurisdictional act which controls custody disputes and only applies where custody is at issue.

The term custody includes a proceeding for divorce, separation, neglect, abuse, dependency, guardianship, paternity, termination of parental rights, and protection from domestic violence, in which the issue may appear.

But, a child custody determination does not include an order relating to child support or other monetary obligation of an individual. In this case, the appellate court found that the parties did not dispute custody of the minor child. As a result, the trial court had subject matter jurisdiction over the action.

The opinion is here.

Travel Restrictions to Hague Convention Countries

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A recurring international custody problem is should a court place travel restrictions on parents who want to travel internationally to only travel to Hague Convention countries with the children? A married couple from China finds out the extent to which a family court can place such travel restrictions.

Travel Restrictions

China Visit

Zhenzhen Wang (the Wife) and Shengyi Ye (the Husband) were married in Iowa in 2008.  They share two children—a son and a daughter. In 2019, Shengyi took a job as a professor in China, while Zhenzhen and the children remained in Iowa.

In 2022, the wife and children visited the husband in China. One day while driving in the car, the parents started fighting, which resulted in the husband abandoning the wife and the children on the side of the road.  She took a taxi back to his apartment, where she discovered he had removed the children’s passports, travel documents, and birth certificates from her backpack.

Although he at first denied taking the documents, he later refused to give them back, preventing her and the children from leaving the country. It ultimately took Zhenzhen “six or seven months” to reorder all of the travel documents and return to Iowa.

When the wife and children returned home to Iowa, she petitioned to dissolve the marriage. Shengyi then filed a competing lawsuit in China, which was ultimately dismissed.

The Iowa court awarded her sole legal custody of the children. After considering his prior conduct preventing the children from returning to home to the U.S., and that China may not enforce a United States custodial order, the court required that the father have visitation with the children only in the U.S.

The court also provided him up to ten consecutive weeks of visitation with the children over the summer, and up to four weeks at a time should he travel to the United States during the school year. The husband appealed, arguing that he should be able to take the children to China for visitation.

Florida and the Hague Convention

I often speak and write about the Hague Abduction Convention and international child custody issues. The International Child Abduction Remedies Act is the statute in the United States that implements the Hague Abduction Convention.

Under the Act, a person may petition a court authorized to exercise jurisdiction in the country where a child is located for the return of the child to his or her habitual residence in another signatory country, so the underlying child custody dispute can be determined in the proper jurisdiction.

But it is important to know that the Convention applies as between contracting states only to wrongful removals or retentions occurring after its entry into force in those states. The accession will have effect only as regards the relations between the acceding State and such Contracting States as will have declared their acceptance of the accession.

In plain language, the Convention enters into force between an acceding State and a member Contracting State only when the Contracting State accepts the acceding State’s accession to the Convention.

Appellate Decision

The appellate court noted that limiting a parent’s ability to travel internationally with his or her children implicates heightened, and at times conflicting, interests. On the one hand, despite the virtues of our state, the court noted:

“[t]he world does not end at the borders of Iowa.”

Children should not easily be denied the opportunity to build meaningful relationships with a parent who resides outside of the United States or fully experience their dual heritage. On the other hand, there may be problems securing the return from a foreign country of a child to a custodial parent in the United States.

The danger of retention of a child in a country where retrieving the child is difficult, if not impossible, is a major factor for a court to weigh. Courts also consider other factors, such as the parent’s domicile, the reasons for visiting, the children’s safety, the age of the children, the parents’ relationship, the viability of bonds or other return measures, and the character and integrity of the parent seeking out-of-country visitation as gleaned from past comments and conduct.

The Iowa Court of Appeals ultimately affirmed. The appeals court noted that China is not a party to the Hague Convention, so the mother would have no recourse should the husband refuse to return the children to the United States.

The Court of Appeals of Iowa decision is here.

De Facto Parents and Child Custody

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Can someone ask a court for custody of a child if they are not the parent or legal guardian but act as the de facto parent? The Georgia Supreme Court just looked at that child custody question in weighing the constitutionality of Georgia’s Equitable Caregiver Act.

De Facto Parent

Georgia On My Mind

These days, a parent-child relationship is becoming hard to define. Cultural norms have changed, and increasingly we have embraced nontraditional families.

Imagine you and your child move in with your parents or significant other, and you rely on them to care for your child while you work. After several years, you get into a fight about parenting, move out, and limit their time with your child. Are your parents or Ex considered equal legal parents? Can a judge to decide how much visitation grandparents or your former significant other has with your child?

Roughly 38 states now recognize the concept of a “de facto parent,” where legal rights are rooted in the person’s relationship to the child as opposed to blood. And in 2019, Georgia Republican Gov. Brian Kemp signed the “Equitable Caregiver Act,” which gives people the right to ask for custody if they can prove they have a “permanent, unequivocal, committed and responsible parental role” for the child.

Abby Boone believed she met that description. She helped raise a young girl for the first four years of the child’s life along with her partner, Michelle Dias. The girl is a cousin of Dias, who legally adopted her in 2011. Boone was not part of that adoption, but the court noted the girl’s middle name is listed as “Boone” on the child’s new birth certificate.

The child, M.D., was born in October 2010. Michelle Dias, who adopted M.D. in March 2011, was in a romantic relationship with Abby Boone, who helped care for M.D. from six weeks old but was not a party to the adoption.

After their breakup, Boone remained involved in M.D.’s life until 2018, when Dias cut off contact. In August 2019, Boone sought “equitable caregiver” status under Georgia’s newly enacted law, which allows a non-parent to be adjudicated as a caregiver with parental rights.

The trial court found that Boone met the statutory requirements and granted her joint legal custody and visitation rights in January 2024. Dias appealed, arguing the statute was unconstitutional because it infringed on a parent’s fundamental right to the custody and control of their child.

Florida De Facto Parent

I’ve written about parental responsibility in Florida before. In Florida, “custody” is a concept we have done away with. Florida uses the parental responsibility concept. Generally, shared parental responsibility is a relationship ordered by a court in which both parents retain their full parental rights and responsibilities.

Under shared parental responsibility, parents are required to confer with each other and jointly make major decisions affecting the welfare of their child. In Florida, shared parental responsibility is the preferred relationship between parents when a marriage or a relationship ends. In fact, courts are instructed to order parents to share parental responsibility of a child unless it would be detrimental to the child.

A grandparent and a stepparent do not acquire all of the rights or assume all of the obligations of a child’s natural parent in Florida. A grandparent may be awarded some visitation rights in very limited situations, such as when the child’s parents are deceased, missing, or in a permanent vegetative state.

Florida does not have a de facto or psychological parent law like Georgia’s. Generally, timesharing and visitation rights are statutory, and the court has no inherent authority to award visitation between a child and one who is neither a parent, grandparent, nor great-grandparent. Our supreme court, citing the fundamental and constitutional right of privacy, has unequivocally reaffirmed adoptive or biological parents’ right to make decisions about their children’s welfare without interference by third parties, and the state cannot intervene into a parent’s fundamental or constitutionally protected right of privacy, either via the judicial system or legislation, absent a showing of demonstrable harm to the child.

Just Peachy

The Georgia Supreme Court declined to resolve the constitutional challenges, instead it interpreted the statute to avoid retroactive application. The Supreme Court held the statute lacked a clear legislative intent for retroactive application. Accordingly, to apply it to a pre-2019 relationship – Dias was fostering Boone’s relationship with M.D. before the statute existed – would impermissibly ascribe new legal consequences to past actions, violating due process principles.

As a result of the refusal to apply the statute retroactively, the trial court’s order was reversed because the statute could not constitutionally apply to conduct predating its enactment, and the Court vacated Boone’s equitable caregiver status and custody rights.

The Georgia Supreme Court opinion is here.

Divorce Ignorance

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A new report by two law professors in England is showing a great deal about the public’s ignorance of divorce laws. Overall, the public’s understanding about finance and property on divorce was considered poor. However, those fortunate enough to have consulted lawyers previously were considered knowledgeable.

London divorce town

Keeping calm and carrying on

The legal experts say that thousands of people going through their divorces could be losing out due to “do it yourself” divorces. The professors from the University of Bristol authored a new report where 20,000 members of the public in England and Wales answered questions on divorce-related laws about dividing finances and property.

For example, given 10 statements about the law and asked to say whether each was true or false, the public correctly identified an average of 4.5 statements. In fact, just over half (55 per cent) of the public correctly identified at least half of the statements.

Statements Which Are Not True (in England):

  • The law says that all assets and debts should be split 50:50, regardless of whose name they were in during the marriage
  • Legally, an individual is not entitled to a share of their ex-spouse’s pension
    The law says that if an individual contributed more money during the marriage, then they are usually entitled to more than 50 per cent of the assets

Interestingly, people with higher qualifications or incomes were somewhat more likely than those with lower level qualifications or incomes to know what the law was in relation to financial remedies on divorce.

Florida Divorce

The official term for divorce in Florida is “dissolution of marriage”, and you don’t need fault as a ground for divorce. Florida abolished fault as a ground for divorce. I’ve written about divorce issues before. The no-fault concept in Florida means you no longer have to prove a reason for the divorce, like your spouse’s political views. Instead, you just need to state under oath that your marriage is “irretrievably broken”.

Before the no-fault divorce era, people who wanted to get divorce either had to reach agreement in advance with the other spouse that the marriage was over, or throw mud at each other and prove wrongdoing like adultery or abuse.

No-fault laws were the result of trying to change the way divorces played out in court. No fault laws have reduced the number of feuding couples who felt the need to resort to distorted facts, lies, and the need to focus the trial on who did what to whom.

Florida abolished fault as grounds for filing a divorce. The only ground you need to file for divorce in Florida is to prove your marriage is “irretrievably broken.” Additionally, the mental incapacity of one of the parties, where the party was adjudged incapacitated for the prior three year, is another avenue.

Dodgy Results?

The report also showed that women were more likely to know about aspects of the law relevant to having children, and men to know somewhat more about the law around the division of assets.

Additionally, and not surprisingly, divorcees were somewhat more knowledgeable about the law than others. But still, their percentages appear to be mere guesswork: they identified an average of 5.2 statements correctly compared to 4.4 statements among those who had not been through a divorce. However, the differences between divorcees and others were not large, with levels of misconception still high among divorcees.

Having a lawyer was important to knowing your rights. Among divorcees who had divorced in the previous five years: those who had used more formal routes to reaching an arrangement, or consulted or used a lawyer, tended to know more about the laws around finances on divorce than those who had not.

Those with higher levels of assets to divide on divorce tended to have a greater understanding than those with lower levels or no assets. Divorcees with dependent children were more knowledgeable than other divorcees in relation to the law around the legal position of parents with main care of their children and around the child maintenance formula, although there were still high levels of misunderstanding among parents on these issues.

With do it yourself divorces, when couples settle how to split finances without courts, the law allows them to agree any split they want. More people are now coming up with their “own solutions” surrounding divorce settlements as there is no longer legal aid in England and Wales. The findings highlighted that women had a greater understanding around law relating to children, whilst men were more likely to know the law on assets.

The professor said the lack of legal aid leads to less awareness and knowledge which is “potentially problematic” because it means that people are relying on “their own misunderstanding of the law which tends to lead to poor settlements”.

The majority of the divorcing population in England and Wales reach arrangements relating to their finances and property outside of the formal family justice system, and also that one in five divorcees seek advice and support from family and friends during the divorce process.

For these reasons, it is important to know what level of knowledge people have, and whether there are misconceptions which might be influencing the decisions made by divorcees and the advice family and friends provide.

The BBC article is here.

Speaking on the Hague Convention and Interstate Child Custody

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Honored to be invited to speak about the Hague Convention and other interstate child custody jurisdiction issues at the 2025 Marital & Family Law Review Course. The program will be presented at the Loews Royal Pacific Resort at Universal Orlando from January 24, 2025 to January 25, 2025. The prestigious Certification Review course is one of largest and most popular family law presentations, and is a partnership between the Florida Bar Family Law Section and the AAML Florida Chapter.

Hague Convention

Interstate Child Custody

Family law today frequently involves interstate child custody, interstate family support, and The Hague Convention on international child abductions. Parents are increasingly moving from state to state and country to country for various reasons. Whether children are moved by parents wrongfully or not, that moving makes interstate and international child custody complicated. The Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act, and The Hague Convention on Child Abduction, can work together in those cases.

Florida and almost all U.S. states passed the UCCJEA into law. The most fundamental aspect of the UCCJEA is the approach to the jurisdiction needed to start a case. In part, the UCCJEA requires a court have some jurisdiction over the child. That jurisdiction is based on where the child is, and the significant connections the child has with the forum state, let’s say Florida. The ultimate determining factor in a Florida case then, is what is the “home state” of the child.

International Child Abductions

I have written about the Hague Convention before. All family lawyers should become familiar with the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction, also known as The Hague Convention on Child Abduction. This international treaty exists to protect children from the harmful effects of international abductions by requiring the prompt return to their habitual residence.

Interstate Family Support

The Uniform Interstate Family Support Act is one of the uniform acts drafted by the Uniform Law Commission. First developed in 1992, the UIFSA resolves interstate jurisdictional disputes about which states can properly establish and modify child support and spousal support orders. The UIFSA also controls the issue of enforcement of family support obligations within the United States. In 1996, Congress passed the Personal Responsibility and Work Opportunity Act, which required all U.S. states adopt UIFSA, or face loss of federal funding for child support enforcement. Every U.S. state has adopted some version of UIFSA to resolve interstate disputes about support.

Certification Review Course

It is a privilege to be invited to speak on the Hague Convention and interstate and international family law issues at the annual Marital & Family Law Review Course again. The annual seminar is the largest and most prestigious advanced family law course in Florida. Last year’s audience included over 1,800 attorneys, hearing officers, and judges.

Register here for remaining spaces, if any.